Nothing can really prepare you for motherhood or a career in corporate.
But what if being a mother helped you thrive as a manager? And what if your career instilled the soft skills to motivate your children?
For the president of entertainment and brand ad agency Mocean, Erica Coates, the demanding nature of both roles has equipped her with the skillset to become a leader in the ad agency that saw a 250% increase in its consumer brand business since 2019. Coates’ promotion from chief operating officer to president in 2023 was part of a major leadership shift in 2023 after the company experienced rapid business growth. Before Mocean, Coates worked in production within the entertainment landscape.
Coates sat down with ADWEEK to discuss what a day in the life of a C-suite exec and working mom looks like, the importance of working for a company that respects home life and why there is no such thing as a perfect work-life balance.
Her words have been edited for length and clarity.
A day in the life
I usually start my day at about 6 AM and I start with a spiritual devotional. That’s what keeps me grounded and fuels my inner being. At about 6:15 or 6:20, I check emails to see if any clients on the East Coast need my attention on anything or if there are any overnight developments. Then I switch into mom mode and make breakfast and lunch for my daughter. While she’s eating breakfast, I’ll drink my coffee and I’ll ask her what she’s anticipating for her day, and we talk through that. Then I drop her off at school; depending on what my schedule looks like that day, it’s probably between 8 and 9 AM. I try to get a workout in. And then I start my official workday between 9 or 9:30.
I start that by reading the trades—ADWEEK, Campaign, Little Black Book, Variety, Fast Company—not just in advertising, but business and tech and innovation as well. My official meetings start at about 10 AM. I try to save the lunch hour for business development and networking. In the afternoon, I review scopes from the team pitch proposals, provide feedback, and then answer a few more calls. Take a few more meetings. But I aim to create blocks of 15 to 30 minutes throughout the day so that I can just focus. You need to collect your thoughts, and it’s hard to do when you’re going from meeting to meeting or call to call.
Then I officially sign off between 6 and 6:30 to have dinner with my family. That’s important to me, especially [because] my daughter’s still in elementary school, so this is a young, formative time for her. Then I help her with her homework—I also share this duty with my husband.
I sign back on after my daughter goes to bed, usually about 8:30 or 9PM, to respond to any immediate needs that come in after six. I’ll draft presentations. That’s usually the quiet time when I’m uninterrupted, and I can build presentations or draft contracts, answer emails, etc. I will use this Outlook feature that has the ‘Time Send’ feature, which is excellent because I want to model balance; I want that for my team. If they get an email from me at 9:30 or 10 PM, they may feel inclined to answer it. But I can set that [email] to hit their inbox at 9 AM the next morning, so that I’m not interrupting their evening. I usually go to bed at about 11 unless there’s a major pitch or other deadline that needs my attention. But that’s usually my day.
I’m most effective when I’m organized. I’ll start to feel burnout. So being organized is very important. When I start slipping in that area, I realize that I’m not being as effective as I can be.
Family and career: it’s complicated
I feel overwhelmed when I start to compare. [For example] Should I be spending more time at home? Like that stay-at-home mom who makes fresh bread for her family, and they never eat out? Or that working mom who never misses a game?
If I let myself indulge in those kinds of thoughts, it can be crippling. Truth be told, the only obstacle is in my head. They say, ‘Comparison is the thief of joy,’ and it truly is. You have to prioritize what you need in your career and find a role that aligns with that; only you can determine what’s non-negotiable for your family and set those boundaries.
I could have been a mom in my 20s, but I intentionally chose to wait until both [my husband and my] careers were more established. We had more money. We were a little bit more settled. But I did contemplate that.
Women who were 10 or 15 years older, who I was witnessing in my 20s when I was entering the workplace—I saw sacrifice. And [I thought]—maybe I do need to take a break and find something else or take a break from the workforce [to start a family]. But then I saw that those same women also had a tremendously difficult time reentering the workforce.
I’ve benefited from the sacrifices of the generations before [me]. I was fortunate to work in some environments where there was an expectation that a healthy employee is a person who can contribute in a positive way in all aspects of their life. As an agency, you are your people. You’re not able to retain people because you’ve got high burnout. And dads need time off too. They want to spend time with their family. They need that flexibility as well.
Motherhood, the school of hard knocks
I had several interviews with the agency [Mocean]. And one of my last interviews was with the owner, Craig Murray. He saw that I had a wedding ring on and he said, ”Oh, do you have a family?” At first, I kind of hesitated to even answer the question because I’d had some not-so-positive experiences with that same question. And I said [to myself], if it’s going to be a problem, I’d rather know now. So, I shared with him (at the time I had a four-year-old daughter), and he said, “Well, she needs you, so we need to make sure we get you support so that you can be there for her when she needs you. And you can do the stellar job for us that I know you can.” I nearly cried in his office.
Organizations may sometimes shy away from being direct about what’s needed from a particular role. The employee will sense that and won’t understand where the flexibility may lie. And so, everybody’s holding their cards up, not out of deceit but from not understanding what’s expected or what’s desired. When you have these really transparent conversations, when you figure out giving Friday off actually isn’t helpful and [they] would rather start at noon and work until 8 PM—we [the company] can accommodate that. We’ll let the team know and make sure that we have you covered so clients don’t see a drop-off in service or things of that nature.
[The biggest misconception about working moms is] that women will underperform men, especially moms. I became the best delegator and multitasker out of necessity after becoming a mom, but also from having high standards and being competitive. I want to win that pitch. I want to get that new business. It also drove me to try to find paths toward excellence that allowed me to satisfy all my roles.
You can’t pick your kid’s personality and [in the workplace] you often can’t either, especially if you inherit a team. You have to figure out what motivates them. You know how to set boundaries for them. And hopefully, you don’t have to get to performance issues. But if you have a performance issue, help them course-correct.
Being a 30-something mom versus a 20-something mom helped prepare me because I had that experience of managing other people. Building patience. Having empathy for other new moms in the workplace—hopefully, my experience will help them carve their path. My path can’t be their path, but hopefully [it] gives them some insights into how to architect a life for themselves.
[There is] no such thing as perfect work-life balance. You’ll always have moments when you’re sacrificing one thing for another, but the art is making sure that you define a life that is fulfilling to you and meets your obligations. For me, it’s feeling as if I’ve given my all to attain the strategic goals of Mocean as its president, which includes happy clients and repeat clients, and that my daughter and husband know that they are my priorities.